Families and ADHD
Coaching for parents and partners
for parents with ADHD
for parents of children and young adults with ADHD
for partners when one or both have ADHD
Parenting with ADHD
Kids are wonderful and parenting is too. It is also hard and can be relentless and require a stack of patience. There are parenting skills that suit an ADHD brain beautifully and some that don’t always come easy to an ADHD brain. So, together you and I will identify your strategies and talents, explore if they could be implemented more effectively, or in more situations, and come up with a practical plan for the rest.
Working with me will help you find and maintain clarity, perspective and confidence in your parenting. You will grow your resilience and your practical strategies. In short, it will help you be a more relaxed, more consistent, more engaged parent to your child(ren) – or whatever it is you want to be ‘more’ of.
Parenting a child with ADHD
AKA Parenting your fabulous, daydreamy and/or loud and/or energetic child
What works for another child doesn’t necessarily work for yours. And it’s frustrating for both of you to keep trying things that don’t work. I can help you either to manage a specific issue or event (getting chores done, starting a new school, or managing relationships with friends better, for example), or I can work with you on longer term strategies, including how to support your child in their education, how to incorporate specific strategies that work for your ADHD child in your parenting repertoire, or gain clarity on how to be the parent you want to be even when things aren’t easy.
Working with me will help you grow more effective strategies, reduce your frustration and worry, and give you the capacity to better advocate for your child. You don’t have to do this all by yourself.
ADHD and relationships
ADHD has an effect on your relationship. Sometimes that’s a positive one - the spontaneity, flexibility and sense of adventure can be exhilarating and you may thrive on a life that’s never dull. At other times, when one or both partners struggle with executive functioning, take feedback as rejection or feel anxious or depressed because of how ADHD affects their life, one partner may feel like they are picking up all of the slack, communication suffers and the cheese never gets put back in the fridge. Coaching offers a sounding board and a place to figure out what’s the most important for you, how to get back on track and how to communicate in a way that works for you. I work with one partner, or both - whichever works best for you.
“Speaking to Judith helped enormously with understanding the difficulties my son may be facing every day with the tasks and decision making. It was so helpful to see the world from his eyes for a minute and realise that all I need to do is accept that his brain works a little differently to mine. To be able to stop comparing him to other people's children and just concentrate on helping him navigate the world in his way, was so refreshing. Judith has a wonderfully calm, grounded way of offering alternatives to help reframe preconceptions and ingrained beliefs. She has a wonderful matter of fact warmth that is very comforting. I would highly recommend talking to Judith if you feel overwhelmed, confused, stuck, worried, or just discombobulated. It has improved my relationship with my son so much.” - Gemma A., UK
